Let me help you live the sweet life, la dolce vita,
by breaking free from limiting beliefs.
For over 30 years, I have been coaching to help individuals change limiting beliefs to live the Sweet Life, la dolce vita – a happier life. If you’re looking at this page, I suspect you want to improve your life in some way, whether it be to transform your fears into courage, discover what holds you back, manifest a new adventure, or any number of things.
Your life is not as sweet as it could be if you are living from limiting beliefs and fears. Limiting beliefs are mindsets or persistent thoughts about life, love, money, relationships, self-worth, etc., that are obvious or often hidden from everyday awareness, but is the ongoing process in which most people operate whether they’re conscious of it or not. Limiting beliefs can prevent us from feeling happy, taking adventures, earning more money, trying new things, living boldly, meeting our future mate, living our dream life, living our sweet life.
It’s been my life’s work – helping others discover and dissolve the limiting beliefs that hold them back. I help them to realize that their unhappiness is not caused by someone else–we are not victims. I offer you strategies to turn self-doubt into self-empowerment.
In our fast-paced lives, it becomes even more evident that our source of happiness and peace comes from within, and is seldom to be found solely in the external world. So, staying in the ‘Sweet Life Zone’ will give you great support and ease.
Most of my teaching and coaching is based on a self-inquiry dialogue process called The Option Method, but I use many tools and techniques to catapult you into happiness, peacefulness, and empowerment in all situations based on an individual’s needs.
Basically, we need to change our thinking in order to transform old habits and patterns. The personal one-on-one coaching I have been practicing for 25 years will give you the leg up! If you could just ‘let go’, you would have done it by now. I can help you unlock the thought patterns that prevent you from letting go and being happier and more successful.
Some Benefits you may experience as a result of coaching sessions are:
- Manifesting your sweet life filled with fulfillment and joy
- Creating more honest and meaningful relationships with yourself and others
- Learning to release old behavior patterns and mindsets
- Discovering how to trust your own intuition
- Managing life’s challenges with peace of mind and clarity
- Becoming a better leader
- Building a successful extraordinary life, as you define it
- Experiencing freedom to choose
I am available for private or group coaching sessions in person, by phone or via the internet.
Contact me today for a special 4 Week Private Coaching Program.
Some answers to your questions about limiting beliefs, self-inquiry, and happiness:
Q: What is the The Option Method?
A: I know many people think I trade options on Wall Street when they hear the name! That couldn’t be farther from the truth. The Option Method that I’ve been using for over two decades, is a dialogue–a self-inquiry system of questions that helps you Uncover, Question, Explore, and Dissolve limiting beliefs and conflicting emotions. [UQUED.]
It is a method that actually can help you discover life-enhancing options for reacting to situations, instead of self-defeating ones. The choices we make in life stem from our belief system. If we believe something is bad, then we believe we should feel bad. It’s not the event that is the problem but the meaning we attach to the event. By changing our perceptions, we can actually be happier. It’s a priceless tool to be able to be happy even before our lives are lined up just right. Once we realize there are other options to our default emotions and to our limiting beliefs, we see greater possibilities. We actually question the thoughts that made us unhappy in the first place. Through a series of questions, we explore unhappy feelings and limiting beliefs. Simply stated, once we find that our limiting beliefs are not true, then they dissolve, and along with them, the conflicting feelings.
Q: How long has the Option Method been around?
A: About four decades ago, the late Dr. Bruce Di Marsico, created a series of respectful questions that were based on acceptance. In addition, acceptance or non-judgment is part of the self-development process–learning how to accept ourselves and those around us.
You may explore any feelings that keep you stuck. Feelings that hold you back or make your life difficult in some way.
Feeling fear, anger, worry, anxiety, discouragement, rejection and other possibly unwelcome feelings are reflections of your thoughts. Find out how to identify and calm your fears. The Option Method offers you a way to look at life differently, with a fresh perspective.
The reason you feel discomfort is because of your belief systems. The premise is that if you are unhappy, it’s probably because you are believing something that’s not true. Once you find out a belief is no longer true, it starts to dissolve, and along with it, the unhappy feeling.
You move away from a peaceful state when you believe an untrue thought, such as “I’m not good enough.”
I ask you questions when I’m mentoring, so you can identify your unhappiness. Basically, you become more conscious and responsible for your feelings and the results in your life.
Q: What do you mean by unhappiness?
A: It does not mean you are necessarily sad or depressed, although you may be. What I mean by unhappiness is any feeling you have that you don’t like feeling. Some of the many feelings could be disappointment, discouragement, overwhelm, or rejection. Some of us experience unhappiness as a sense of hopelessness or just being stuck in a rut.
Q: What are limiting beliefs and why question them?
A: A limiting belief is a perception of reality, a conclusion you came to, or something you were told you had no reason to doubt. When we think a thought, physiological changes occur in every organ and system of our body. Therefore, Our bodies experience our thoughts as feelings or emotions. Wise teachings since the beginning of time have strongly encouraged us to change our thinking and Change Limiting Beliefs. “As a man thinketh, so he is.” To see a list of common self-defeating beliefs, please click here.
Q: How is your coaching different than therapy?
A: First, unlike other modalities, the Option Method does not ask you to replace an old belief with a new one. This means that once you find that the limiting beliefs are no longer true, they begin to dissolve like ice in sunshine. You begin to feel relief and happier because simultaneously the unwelcome feelings you grew accustomed to, change with the beliefs.
Secondly, as an Option Method mentor, I am not diagnosing or giving advice. I just help you find your own voice to make your own decisions. I hold with the premise that you are the best expert on your own life. You may have gotten confused along the way and you just need to get clearer by uncovering, identifying, and transforming the beliefs behind the uncomfortable feelings.
Q: How long does a session last?
A: Each session is 55-60 minutes long. I work in person or on the phone. Both are highly effective. My job is to listen, without any judgments or assumptions. This means that I accept you where you’re at without expectations. I’ll help you uncover the beliefs underlying your uncomfortable feelings and the result is more peace and happiness.
Q: How long does it take to get rid of limiting beliefs?
A: You could experience a huge ‘aha’ moment in your first session. I don’t know how long it will take you to dissolve and change limiting beliefs, but in my experience, anyone who is open to exploring their blocks, move forward. They feel relief. I think having the Option Method dialogue questions as a lifelong tool will always help you when daily situations challenge you.
The more consistent you do a series of sessions, I think the greater the results, but again, don’t get hung up on ‘how long.’
As Voltaire so aptly stated, “Judge a man by his questions rather than his answers.”